Please Help Love question

I asked this question on singles and dating but maybe should have posted it here - they seem young :-( on singles and dating. Anyway;





Recently I have been having feelings for my first love even though we have not been together for years and years. We are both single but rarely see each other. When we do it is just a fleeting exchange hi how are you etc. but he is always really pleased to see me and would give me hug and check me out subtley In fact he has always been a complete gentleman as I had been in a relationship, he even asked me once what my then boyfriend did for a living which made me wonder if maybe he was jealous. Over the past few months I have been in the local paper with work related things and A few days ago I was crossing the road and he was driving past, he said hello then he jokingly said he wouldnt be buying the local paper anymore cos I was always in it. He said this in a laughing jokey way. What I wonder is could this be deemed as flirting, it seemed like it to me. Also do you think he might have feelings for me. I know this reads like a teenager has written it which is riduclous cos we are our 30's but he just has this effect on me. I would never call him or suggest coofee or anything but I just live for these causal meetings which can be months apart. Do you think he cares about me.


|||OBVIOUSLY he carea bout you, dont hold youself back from your feelings. Ask the guy to get a cofee, and if it turns into soemthing tell him how you were never happier than when together with him... Follow that heart that explodes when filled with iodien|||Sounds like something could be there, but the only way you will know is to go for it and see what happens. You seem to have stayed friends over they year and maybe its time to give it another shot. He could be feeling like you, not knowing if he should say something or leave it alone. If I was in your shoes I think I would go for it. He could be the one that makes ya stop looking around :)


Good luck in whatever you decide. |||You two will always have special feelings towards each other, thats how first loves work, so without a doubt, i think he still does as u probably do him as well. What could it hurt for calling him up and asking him for coffee, for old times sake for an old friend? That will lead to a conversation over that coffee and u never know where it might go and you'll look none the worse by doing so. An old friend getting aquainted with an old friend, how can u go wrong, JUST DO IT and good luck to ya|||he girl, you're in your 30s, your both matured, most of all, both professional. asking him for a coffee for a little chat is not shameful in your case. specially you've had a history together. go ahead, take the guts. don't wait till it's too late.of course i trust you can handle it diplomatically. you know how immature women act %26amp; talk %26amp; advice ;) goodluck!





this is your best %26amp; probably the last time for you to find a good husband :)|||I'm not sure if that means he cares for you but you should always take into account how and why you broke up in the first place, If it was a mutual thing then ok! But be careful it may be just a booty call thing.


Some men just like the thought that women still want them, but right now it sounds like harmless flirting. Goodluck : )|||If you are interested, at thirty-something you should know this:





"Nothing ventured, nothing gained".





If he is single, you need to make a move. If you don't, you will never know. You could even be married to someone else before you find out! What a waste of good times. You are not getting any younger!|||I think your Coffee kicked in Dude....lol





I read your letter and I will say that perhaps you should capatilize on your feelings rather than leaving them hanging in the wind sort of speak.





Invest it and make something happen and don't wait for something to come to you...you make it happen.


Improvise....overcome|||Yup.


Or he's constantly reliving his glory days.


Either way, enjoy your little run-ins with each other, and the anticipation of them.


And if it really gets to you, ask him to have a coffee with you.


But do enjoy the game :)|||What are you waiting for my dear? Go for it. Ask him out. That's what he wants. That's what you want. You're in your 30s now...you don't need to play games, just go ahead and ask him. You'll be happy you did and then you won't have to worry again! :)|||no-one knows if he cares about you but you


i think you know the answer


but you want us to bck it up


go for it!


the worst thing that'll happen is he says no..


and thats still better than wondering if you lost mr right..





good luck





xx|||Well if you are both free agents........you will never know until you give it a go.


He may be feeling the same as you and a somewhat apprehensive about how you feel.


Go for it...casually ask him if he has time for that coffee...and take it from there.


Good luck.|||it sounds like love :)





help me?


http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>|||It seems to a case that he hasn't really got over you ( or the hate u have cos him) even though he thought he has.


Maybe try talking as friends again and see how things goes.|||I feel you. I still have feelings for my first love, even though I live across an ocean, and am now in an new relationship. You must constantly remind yourself why things ended, and why it didn't work, and not let the good feelings you have when you encounter him cloud your judgement. There were very specific reasons why my ex and I broke up, and I have to remind myself how unhappy I actually was at times.





On the other hand, if you are both single, and it ended amicably, why aren't you giving it another try? I am sure there are very good reasons why he is single as well, and if I had to judge from your encounters, I would say that he still probably has feelings for you as well.|||Well, its very difficult determining if men r interested in their women coz they hardly let any1 know. U never know. U can try calling him asking him for sme help. Try meeting him often with some or the other excuse and during ur conversations find out if he is seriously having any one else in his life and wot does he think bout ur personal relationships with other ppl. If he is interested, he will promptly agree to meet u. That will be first sign.





So, put ur mind to work.