Please help I have messed up my question - new here

I asked this question on singles and dating but maybe should have posted it here - they seem young :-( on singles and dating. Anyway;





Recently I have been having feelings for my first love even though we have not been together for years and years. We are both single but rarely see each other. When we do it is just a fleeting exchange hi how are you etc. but he is always really pleased to see me and would give me hug and check me out subtley In fact he has always been a complete gentleman as I had been in a relationship, he even asked me once what my then boyfriend did for a living which made me wonder if maybe he was jealous. Over the past few months I have been in the local paper with work related things and A few days ago I was crossing the road and he was driving past, he said hello then he jokingly said he wouldnt be buying the local paper anymore cos I was always in it. He said this in a laughing jokey way. What I wonder is could this be deemed as flirting, it seemed like it to me. Also do you think he might have feelings for me. I know this reads like a teenager has written it which is riduclous cos we are our 30's but he just has this effect on me. I would never call him or suggest coofee or anything but I just live for these causal meetings which can be months apart. Do you think he cares about me.





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Ok so maybe I will ask for coffee but based on limited info I have given do you think he might be attracted to me. We recently drove past each other in a traffic jam him going one way me the other. It was a hot summer day and both of us had the window down arms out. We see each other, smile and say hi then we both instinctively reached out and almost touched each other as we slowly drove past. Is this a positive? Do any guys think he might like me?


4 minutes ago





In case you wonder I am really shy so asking for coffee will be huge for me so really want to make sure he might say yes.


|||Ok...I'm 27 so I am pretty sure you have more experience then me in this department.But honey, every guy that I have ever been in a relationship with, till this day are still attracted to me. So I am pretty sure he is still attracted to you especially if you haven't changed much from when you guys dated.


My whole thing with you is the shyness.You should be able to ask him out for coffee. You have been in a relationship with this guy so you shouldn't be shy about anything. Next time you see him say something like this. "Joey, we have been running into each other a lot lately. You wanna grab a cup of coffee and catch up?" From there you can get to know how he feels about you. Or if you don't want to wait until the next time you see him, you can simply call him up and say " Joey, I was wondering can we go out to dinner want to catch up with you?"





I wish you the best of luck!|||I read the 1st sentence and got bord |||What are you waiting for,... if your shy, get help to get over this, time doesn't wait for anyone. I get got a divorce after 31 years, he cheated, and now I know if I want to meet someone, I have to take steps to do so, I have 20 years on you, do not wait !!! |||Ask him for coffee...it cannot hurt, and just enjoy your time with him, try not to have expectations...even though you got feelings. HAVE FUN with him. :) good luck|||If you are truly so shy as to not want to suggest anything, just slip into the conversation that you were on your way to have coffee and he'll most likely invite himself.|||Ok, how about you ask him about some problem or for advise on something.





Maybe say something like, I have a problem and I would really like to hear your opinion on it. Would you like to go get a cup of coffee or maybe lunch and we can discuss it then?





Your problem could be anything from personal delima to personal finance to redecorating your home---anything.





This lets him know that his opinions are important to you and that you value his advice, plus you get the chance to spend some one on one time with him.





When I got involved in astronomy, I had a friend who is really smart and I asked him if he knew anything about astronomy. He did and we ended up spending many evenings out in the wilderness together with the telescope and getting to know each other. For us, our friendship got a lot deeper but we never took it beyond that, but I do know that he was confused and talked to our pastor about his feelings for me.





I did find my Mr. Right and we have been married for a few years now, and the first guy is still a friend, so everything worked out good.





Edit: At age 46 my husband and I met on:


http://www.plentyoffish.com/


That is a free site and it was fun. I had to throw back a few fish before I found my keeper. I disagree with another answer here---you are never too old to find love and romance.