Do you consider masturbation to be wrong? Do you think masturbation negatively affects "real" sex?

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I can remember my mom and my dad slapping my hands if I spend too much time rubbing my penis with soap in the bath or the shower. It was that bad.





In high school, my sex and marriage teacher was a celibate Roman Catholic priest. He said that masturbation was self abuse. He repeatedly said "self abuse masturbation" to drive the point home. He had case studies of men who had become impotent, erectile dysfunction, retarded ejaculation. The wives somehow blamed the inability of them to conceive was tied to their husband's masturbation, his self abuse of his body.





A man's hand and a woman's vagina are two separate and distinct body parts. Naturally, there is an adjustment of going from satisfying oneself to being satisfied by a partner.





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Do you believe there is a causal effect in which a man's sexual dysfunction (erectile dysfunction, retarded ejaculation) and masturbation? What do guys mean, in criticism of masturbation that, "I'd rather have the real thing"?Is masturbation not considered real sex?





As a Catholic, I was taught that not only is masturbation not "the real thing," but that oral and anal sex are not the real thing either. Any sexual activity that does not create life is considered to be a perverted act. I don't agree with it, but that is how I was raised.





Here is an example of my Catholic mother's reaction to former President Clinton's affair.


When President Clinton and Monica engaged in activities involving a cigar and oral sex, the former President said "I never had sexual relations with that woman."


My mother said "That's right. It's not sex- it's perversions."


If a person masturbates do you consider that sexual behavior or perverted behavior?


Given the assumption that real sex, the real thing, is a man and a woman having intercourse to conceive a child, is any other pleasuring of the sexual organs that is not that (masturbation, oral, anal) a perverted act?


Is it possible that if a man believes that masturbation is self abuse and not the real thing could that sense of guilt and shame have a negative impact on his sex life and happiness over all? Could the same be true for women?|||A lot of it depends on what materials you use to masturbate to..what images you let into your mind..there's a lot of evil shiit out there...there's the folly, not the actual act of self pleasure....|||It's not wrong, no studies have shown it has negative effects, and in fact it is actually healthy because it can deter prostate cancer and relieve stress.





Also, note, nobody seems to know what perverted means.


Perversion: deviation from the norm.


Most males have masturbated at some point in their life. Therefore NOT masturbating is perversion.|||masturbation is not wrong. it is not perverted. it is not something to be ashamed of. i was taught that it wasn't "right" as well. i never understood why it was so wrong when it felt so good.|||It's only wrong when you do it to yourself, it's never wrong to do it to a friend.





That's your loop hole.|||masturbation is NATRUAL IT DOSE NOT EFFECT YOU BADLY AND IF ANYTHING IT MAKES YOU BETTER IN BED YOU CAN LAST LONGER|||It is better to masturbate than getting Aids and STD diseases and then horrible die|||"Common sense is faiths' worst enemy" - Written outside, on a church message board|||Personally, I see nothing wrong with it. Let's face it, we've all done it.|||It's not wrong and it feels good|||Okay, as someone who was raised Catholic I'm going to have to give you a digital slap and tell you to get over the guilt.





Masturbation is not an evil. It's a healthy act; keeps the plumbing working as they say. It is true that excessive masturbation can negatively effect your chances of getting a woman pregnant that it would have to be A LOT. And your body will still replenish itself without a problem.





And as for your celibate Roman Catholic priest; remember that he was (or was supposed to be) celibate. As in his knowledge of sex was limited at best. And not to speak ill of your mother but she sounds like a product of different generation and should try updating her views.





Masturbation won't affect your sex life anywhere near as much as stress or guilt; these things will definitely mess you up. My advice is to relax, accept that self pleasuring is okay, and enjoy.|||MASTURBATION - Direct stimulation of the sex organs outside of sexual intercourse. The self-stimulation can be physical, by means of some external object, or psychic, by means of thoughts and the imagination. It is a grave misuse of the procreative faculty and when done with full consent and deliberation is a serious sin. The sinfulness consists in setting in motion the generative powers while preventing them from achieving their natural, divinely intended purpose. (Etym. Latin manu, with the hand + stuprare, to defile oneself.)|||Masturbation is a normal thing. But studies do show that over use and using pornography can slow down ones drive to find a sexual partner or have sexual relations of any sort. Another study showed that it can be harder to orgasm if one is used to doing it to themselves. If i could find the articles i would post them in the source but i dont really want to try and find them...sorry!|||Masturbation is one of the healthiest things any person can do for themselves.


It reduces the risks of sexual transmitted disease/infections, and makes it impossible to concieve unwanted children.


As for what the priest said, I think schools are taking it way too far if they feed you that kinda crap, I have never heard of masturbation affecting your sex life at all, other than some people take it too far and become asexual.


honestly everything in moderation, and masturbation in moderation is one of the best things a person can do for themselves,


and of course the same applies to women, though they I dare say have to be more careful


Ive heard of a women tearing her vaginal wall and dieing because of masturbation with a carrot...


true story.|||Man that catholic upbringing really messes with young, impressionable kid's minds. If you want to talk about abuse, that is the real abuse. Telling lies, trying to control thoughts, making people feeling inappropriate guilt and so on. If anything is evil, it is this indoctrination.





People need to let go of the ignorance and hate taught by catholics and most other organized religions. Only then will you be free to seek your own truth and live a happy life.|||Masturbation isn't wrong, but any form of sexual contact between human beings, if one or both of them is married, is a form of adultery. You cannot define "sex" solely as vaginal intercourse, since a variety of activities result in sexual pleasure, or else people wouldn't engage in them. For a married person, seeking sexual pleasure with someone other than the spouse is adulterous behavior.





Now, while masturbation normally isn't wrong, there are ways in which it can become a problem. For example, people normally masturbate to sexual fantasies, and they can become so attached to the fantasy -- so dependant on it to achieve orgasm -- that sex with a partner doesn't quite measure up unless the partner is always willing to act out the fantasy.





And some people become addicted to masturbation (again possibly because a certain type of fantasy is involved), so they may not be prepared to engage in regular, mutual pleasure with a partner.





These are forms of sexual disorders, but normally masturbation, practiced only occasionally, wouldn't be related to a sexual dysfunction like inability to achieve an erection. It MIGHT be related to retarded ejaculation if someone is masturbating too often, or to an inability to achieve an erection with a real live partner, but there would be other, psychological issues going on there. That is, the man can't get aroused with a real live partner because he's got some problem involving sex with actual human beings, but he has no trouble with an erection when he's masturbating. And again, over-attachment to a masturbatory fantasy could play a role in erectile dysfunction with a partner.





And yes, any man who thinks masturbation is self-abuse and sinful could have problems in his sex life with a partner, but such a man would probably have psychological difficulties with the concept of sex in general. If you think masturbation is wrong, you probably view all sex, including sexual intercourse between a man and a woman, as at least somewhat "dirty".





If any of these problems occur, you need to see a therapist who specializes in sexual disorders and dysfunctions.|||Yet another case of an organized religion messing up someone's head in order to control people.





There is nothing wrong with masturbation. The guilt and shame that the church has dumped on you is something that you need to try to recover from.





Your parents watch you shower???





Someone who has sworn off sex has no buisness teaching a class on sex and marriage, they are not qualified and have no idea what they are talking about.|||For centuries there has been the myths of the so called evils of masturbation.





Males have masturbated from time they discovered how to use there hands.





Society and certain religions said to masturbate is evil. It is sin, you will grow hair on your palms, one will go insane, it will make one go blind, it will make you GAY and hundreds more to scare a young boy that what he he is doing is natural.





I began to masturbate around the aqe of 12 and to this day still enjoy the pleasure of solo sex.|||No, masturbation is not a bad thing, it does not negatively affect real sex. That is all bullshit from that idiotic priest who has probably not even seen himself naked. Don't listen to people like that, all they are doing is trying to control everything you do. But if your parents were watching you shower....That is real abuse. Like "Maybe I should consider therapy" level of abuse. Jerkin off is shown to be medically good for you, it is a connection to a man's natural, primal sexual instincts. That's why most of us were able to do it without knowing what it was.|||Your teacher was right, masturbation is self abuse. I'll pray for you! Repent!